When it comes to conflict, the Biblical perspective is extremely extensive and offers a multitude of strategies on how to begin to understand and handle a situation from a God-centered or divine level. Conflict is a regular occurrence, it is inevitable and can be found in both personal and professional relationships, and it can vary according to one’s religious background. Conflict can become especially challenging when Christian values and faith come into question. What does the Bible say about conflict? Let us look into some of the biblical scriptures that can be useful when dealing with any type of conflict.
The Bible is clear when it comes to conflict and encourages resolution and reconciliation. Philippians 4:2-3 states “let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” This scripture aims to remind us to take care of our internal conflict and bring it to God in prayer rather than seek resolution through worldly means. This can be extremely advantageous since we can find strength and clarity through prayer – often the issues will resolve on their own with a little bit of faith and patience. Additionally, it serves to show that there is hope and healing with the help of God.
Furthermore, the Bible encourages us to look into our hearts in times of conflict and reflected on the words of James 3:2-17 “If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man able to bridle the whole body as well. If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things. How great a forest is set ablaze by such a small fire!” This scriptural passage easily articulates how our speech can be more powerful than we realise and can thus equally affect our relationship with others and drive a conflict. As such, it is important to meditate on our words before they leave our lips. Reflecting on James 3:2-17 and embracing humility in times of conflict can help us become aware of our attitudes and words, and thus how both can contribute to the issue.
In addition, Matthew 5:23-24 presents a beautiful opportunity when dealing with conflict as by bringing resolution, it can be a silent but powerful witness to the love of Christ. “Therefore if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother, then come and offer your gift.” Here, we are quite literally reminded that reconciliation should be the first step before peace is sought. It is a clear action that we can take to bring resolution to problem and by doing so, also bring glory and honor to God. Utilising this scripture can help you to come to a place of peace and show love even when presented with a difficult situation.
Finally, the book of Proverbs 15:1-2 speaks of how respectful and courteous dialogue can help to avoid and bridge any gaps of conflict. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly.” This can be essential in conflict as it offers a different way to approach the issue. It is often easier to respond hastily and seek to address the situation with fiery passion, however, there is much beauty in responding with gentleness and allowing a peaceful resolution to be found. It may not always be easy, but it can be incredibly effective. As the scripture states, the wiseman is often praised for his linguistic restraint.
Respectful Conflict Resolution
One of the most momentous lessons learned from the Bible is the understanding that respectful conflict resolution can be found by using the wisdom of scripture. We are reminded that communication is key and that not only should we seek to communicate through prayer, but also express our thoughts to one another with gentleness. Furthermore, we should remain mindful of our words, what they mean and how they can be used to help us tackle any situation that may arise with respect, maturity and mindful consideration. This mindset can prove to be invaluable in all walks of life, where respect and understanding can be seen as the cornerstone of any relationship.
Practising Self-Control
Moreover, the Bible clearly articulates the importance of self-control. As the scripture states in Proverbs 16:32 “better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city.” Here, we are reminded of how our emotions can be precious and beautiful, but can also become harmful if left unchecked. As such, in times of conflict it is essential to seek to control our feelings, not just to protect ourselves, but also to protect the other individual. When under control, our feelings can help to bring resolution and clarity to a situation, not the other way around.
The Will of God
Conflict is unavoidable, but we can learn to manage it well with the wisdom of God. What the Bible tells us is clear – the heart of God is for us to bring peace and resolution to a situation. Thankfully, God does not leave us alone to struggle with this. As the Bible conveys in John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your heart be troubled and do not be afraid.” Here, we are reminded of the significance of peace and the joy that comes from resolving a conflict in a God-centered or divine way. Even if we do not find resolution, it can still be carried out with love, understanding, and a desire to bring peace to our relational suffering.
Offering Grace and Forgiveness
The Bible not only encourages us to pray and to use self-control when faced with any type of conflict, but it also encourages us to offer grace and forgiveness. This can be of special importance as we learn to understand that forgiving those who have wronged us and grace can be found in the act of showing love, no matter the circumstance. In Matthew 6:14-15 we are reminded of the importance of this very act “For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” This powerful scripture stresses the importance of forgiveness and how by allowing it to take place, we can find resolution and peace in our lives every day.
References
Philippians 4:2-3, James 3:2-17, Matthew 5:23-24, Proverbs 15:1-2, Proverbs 16:32, John 14:27, Matthew 6:14-15
